The big F word… FEAR! Not the F word you were thinking of? This F word is still pretty bad. Fear is the seed to all undesirable sinful behavior. Fear is the root of all evil not money! Money is not even a bad thing, nor is it a sin or bad to have, God never wanted us to be poor. Money is a big subject in the bible only because God knows what it CAN do to some people. Even still fear is at the center of it all. We all start with a fear then it morphes into _______ ( you fill in the blank. ) When your stuck in an ungodly behavior, ask your self “what am I afraid of.”
I will confess, I have a fear of rejection. Most people who know me would be very surprised to hear this. I have worked many years trying to get through this. Since childhood I have had this fear for as long as I can remember. Every kid in school has a small or large fear of “not fitting in” I never did “fit” into that popular group. Christians especially a child will always be the “Odd” one out. We as Christians are not supposed to “fit” in with this world, we are called to live here, temporary. BE the salt and light of the world, not be like every one else. THIS IS HARD! This fear formed me from so young. Living in a house divided of faith/worldly for many years, having a father that was not a great male role model let alone a Godly one, as a young girl trying to “fit” into a world that she didn’t even fit into to being with, was hard. Then I went down a spiral path of doing so many things I thought was “fitting” in which actually made me even more awkward and in the odd group of the world and in the “church” world.
Matthew 5:13-16 (NIV)
Salt and Light
13 “You are the salt of the earth. But if the salt loses its saltiness, how can it be made salty again? It is no longer good for anything, except to be thrown out and trampled underfoot.
14 “You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. 15 Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. 16 In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.
Churchy people ( not Godly people) can be so much more harsh than the secular world. True Godly people would never make any feel that way some people who “claim” to be a Christian have made people feel. There is a very real judgmental epidemic in the church. The place that is supposed to be the least judging place out there. I am not talking about the kind of judging of the fruit of the spirit and confronting one in love of sinful behavior. I know so many people who have left a church because of the way they were treated. That is terrible and unthinkable to be so hurt by a mere man to leave a church. It happens so much though. I too have been hurt by people at a church. My faith does not lie in man, but in God and it is those people who will answer to God for the treatment of other believers.
WE are not meant to walk this Christian walk alone, as in God meant for us to have fellowship with other Christians. He knows it is hard!
I cannot stress it enough to have us parents be the Godly example to your children. Help them FIT into your life. Show your children the love God desperately needs us to, if WE don’t the world will. I can attest to that first hand. I did not receive the proper Godly love from my earthly father, so to fill it up, where do you think I got it…. which I actually didn’t even get. It was all a fake love. That need to feel accepted has never left, I only got good at ignoring it.
My journey of self expectance has been even harder than my need to not feel rejected by others. The first time in my life I have been the heaviest (weight) I have ever been, and this time I cannot use pregnancy as an excuse. My fear of rejection is even more prevalent since I am over weight. This world has such a huge body shaming appeal to everything both over weight and under weight. There is some recognition to how this world has focused on the wrong thing and realizing how it is hurting our children. It is still not enough, much damage is already done.
Teaching our children, boys and girls who they are in Christ and what God views as beautiful. Teaching our kids their identity does not lie in what the world says we should be, look, do ect. Grounding our kids in Gods “world” on this “world” will pave a healthy mental mold as they grow into strong Godly adults that will not sway when the world is going the wrong way, and we all know it is.
I read an article about a new cartoon about drag queens, they are targeting our children younger and younger every year. My heart is hurting at the state of our country/world. I am pleading with you parents, do not trust school, church, friends or who ever to teach and raise your children. Be vigilant, be pro active, be involved in growing your kids into the way God needs us to raise disciples. Our kids will follow something/someone are you the example you want them to be?
Proverbs 22:6 (NASB)
6 Train up a child [a]in the way he should go,
Even when he is old he will not depart from it.